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Are you constantly wondering, “Why am I not successful in life and what am I doing wrong?”
You’ve set a goal and you’re on your way, but inevitably like all things in life, you hit a speed bump… or two or perhaps even three.
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You’re losing steam, you’re getting distracted, you feel overwhelmed and you’ve just lost your motivation. The passion and drive to succeed have fizzled in the shadow of the long road ahead. *exhale* Can you even do this?
What was so clear when you set your goal, is now a foggy mess.
You wonder, how do I actually achieve my goals?
How do I become successful?
Success and achieving your goals is not only what you do, but also what you don’t do and what you avoid.
If this is you, it’s time to ask yourself, have you fallen in these three post-goal setting traps?
Here are three major obstacles to success that you seriously need to avoid. Being aware of them avoid save you months if not years of frustration.
Why You Won’t Be Successful
There’s a reason why all the people on the planet aren’t walking around incredibly successful.
If it was easy we’d ALL be doing it. And since we’re not, it’s important to know WHY so we can avoid the destiny of “okayedness”! (Yes, I just made that word up.)
When you’re on your way to achieving a goal or you’d like to create a goal, here’s what you need to AVOID at all costs:
- Naysayers
- Lack of Resources
- External Forces
Being aware of the challenges you’ll face, and the obstacles standing in the way of your success, you’re able to prepare yourself. You can get through this!
Don’t let either of these obstacles be why you can’t achieve your goals.
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Obstacle #1: Naysayers
Whether it’s the voice of fear, jealousy, self-doubt or worry that comes from your OWN mind, or it’s someone else’s – you all don’t know what you’re talking about.
You really don’t.
That’s a fact.
None of us know what will happen, we only think we know based on our past experience which truly makes no difference at all.
Think of all the evolution that’s happened since man first walked this earth. If we KNOW anything it’s that we’re meant to evolve and keep getting better.
Success DEPENDS on going for it in spite of naysayers. You can be a part of their ‘club’ while the rest of the world is evolving OR you can shut down the negativity and keep moving in the direction of your dreams!
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Control Your Mind and End the Self-Sabotage
If your own mind is telling you to give up, you’re not worth it, you won’t succeed, blah, blah, blah.
Just change your thoughts.
Guess what? YOU have control over that.
What does that voice tell you? We all have one. Some of the more common self-sabotaging thoughts are:
- I’m not good enough.
- I’m a fraud.
- I’ll never get there.
- Who do you think you are?
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The very best way to overcome these nasty thoughts is to reframe and retrain your thought patterns.
Find your personal power words that reboot your brain to unlock your greatness.
Here are some examples:
- I’m on this planet to share my unique gifts and that’s what I’m going to do.
- I am smart. I am brave. I am loved. I am amazing.
- I’m a badass and no one else can do what I uniquely do.
- I have a Higher Power and invisible team to guide me, inspire me and support me at all times.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
You also have the power to end a conversation or remove yourself from someone else’s fear or doubtful mindset. You can’t change them and you certainly don’t have to believe what they’re saying.
If you’d like to speak up, I always try to remember to say what I mean but don’t say it mean. It’s wonderful to be clear with someone you think they might be open to supporting you in the future.
Sometimes it’s best to remember how certain people fit into your life, no matter how much you wish it could be different.
Lastly, this particular dream killer can show up as a well-meaning comment or suggestion, it can surprise the heck out of you or be completely anticipated by a certain person.
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Take care of yourself and your vision. Surround yourself with supportive relationships and limit the negative ones. Make new friends if you have to.
Only you control the thoughts in YOUR mind. It takes practice but the more you do it, the easier it gets.
Obstacle #2: Lack of Resources
It’s easy to think “I’d really love to do that but I don’t have the time to….” or “I don’t have the money…”.
While I like to keep things SIMPLE, I don’t say that achieving your goal is EASY. Simple and easy are two completely different words. Achieving goals isn’t always easy, but how easy is it to live in pain or struggle?
Take a journey into the future with me.
What if you were already living your vision? What if… it’s 6 months down the road well into your new life enjoying the pure joy and satisfaction it’s brought you.
How does that feel?!
It’s AMAZING.
Looking back, wouldn’t the time and money be WELL WORTH IT?! It would! Trust me. It would.
And there’s always an opportunity to get creative when you’re faced with obstacles. Always.
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Unlock Your Abundance Mindset
One of the best ways to avoid this thinking is to stay in touch with your flow of creativity.
Spiritual Brainstorming is one of my favorite things to do because it’s the most effective. Add someone else to help you with this exercise and BOOM.
- Begin with a few deep breaths and a moment of meditation. Ask God/Higher Power/Universal Spirit to guide you through the process of uncovering all of the resources available to you as you start this business or write this book, whatever your goal is.
- Then put pen to paper and start writing. Write down everything that comes up for you. Even if it seems crazy, write it down!
- Did you think of someone but you’re not sure why? It doesn’t matter! Write it down.
- Maybe there was a sign or a website or a book you saw recently. If it pops into your mind, write it down.
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Now I’m not saying you’ll be taking action on all of these things, some of them, certainly. But what this does for you is it opens up your flow and receptivity to what’s POSSIBLE. It’s an action you can take to show the universe that you’re WILLING to move forward.
Unleash your abundance mindset and allow the universe to provide for you!
Whether we take small steps or massive action, the universe starts to deliver.
When we don’t feel like we have any options or resources, it’s important to shift that perspective and get back in touch with the abundance that’s available to us.
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Obstacle #3: External Forces
Here’s a silly example to illustrate this for you.
When I have to fold laundry, that’s my goal, fold the laundry. I just have to get it done, put it all away, move on with my life. You get the idea.
Well, imagine me picking up each item and spending a little time to fold it (very improperly) and if I’m lucky, my husband’s helping (because achieving goals takes a team!)
Along comes one of my children. “Ohhhhhh, what’s this?”
I see them get excited at the potential in this big pile of clothes. My one year old will start picking up every single piece and throwing it on the floor. She moves FAST and it’s nearly impossible to stop her in time. My four year old will DIVE into the pile and start swimming around.
Either way, it could take me days to fold one load of laundry!
UNLESS I’M PREPARED.
I need to be faster and smarter than them. I need to see what’s coming, have an alternate route, do whatever it takes to get those clothes folded and MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE!
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Be Prepared and Ready for the Obstacles
Believe me, there will be external forces of some magnitude that get in your way. There will be challenge after challenge after challenge, sometimes all in the same day!
Just like the universe will seem to make all these crazy, insurmountable things happen, the universe will also deliver your ultimate desires to you. Kind of like my kids!
It’s so worth it, you just need to stay on your toes and be prepared. Expect challenges and use some of these ideas to get through them a lot quicker and painlessly:
- Have an alternate plan
- Don’t go it alone – support is crucial
- Give yourself some downtime
- Do something for someone else
- Pray, journal, meditate and/or take a walk
- I like to do jumping jacks or yoga – both are a great reset button
- Surrender to what is and know it will pass!
Always remember that for every obstacle you face, there are big, delicious rewards waiting for you on the other side. The feelings of accomplishment, greater confidence and faith, and the growing numbers in your bank account are a few that might help you keep your eye on your dream.
Keep your vision alive and know that you can overcome anything and BE THE ONE WHO SUCCEEDS!
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How to Overcome Obstacles to be Successful
Stay clear of naysayers, a lack of resources and uncontrollable external forces!
Although there may not be ONE magic formula to success, there are certain obstacles you should avoid to increase your odds of success. AND, be prepared!
Don’t leave it to chance. Set your goals and create the environment for your success. Clear the road of obstacles and avoid falling into these traps.
Lay the foundation for your success today by getting the Slay Your Goals Guide below, with ten steps you need to take to achieve your goals.
Your road to success is paved by every tiny goal you set and slay and all the speed bumps, and potholes you avoid, but also fall into.
No matter how difficult your journey gets, just don’t give up. There will be ups and downs, but keep going.
Resilience is ultimately how you overcome any obstacle to success!
What’s your biggest obstacle to succeeding?
More About Guest Contributor
Becca Starr is a Success Coach for Women Entrepreneurs. She’s a thought leader, author, and speaker offering online and live workshops that help women share their unique calling and increase profitability. She was a spa owner for many years until discontentment revealed it was time to begin a new chapter in teaching women they also have the power to live their greatness and create a life that is deeply satisfying.
Last Updated on July 11, 2021
Chloe | ciaochloe.com says
I love how eye-catching and bold this post is (and your blog)! Great post.
Becca Starr says
Nadalie’s articles are visually amazing and packed full of great content!
Nadalie Bardo says
Aww thanks so much lovelies! 😘 😘
Patricia says
Good tips! I think surrounding yourself with supportive people and not listening to naysayers is very important to success. Other ways to ensure success: 1) work hard at achieving your goals. Be willing to put in the effort it takes to accomplish said goal. 2) Never give up. Even if you encounter obstacles, pick yourself up and try again.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Patricia,
OMG yes. Sometimes I think, “where would I be, had it not been for those kind words this a supportive person said to me when I was down.” We all need that cheering section.
And for sure! Never, ever give up!
Becca Starr says
Yes! The cheering section 🙂
Becca Starr says
I love the perseverance in those tips. It’s been said that I have tenacity, I think it’s what helps me so much! The consistent commitment, even just small steps, or 15 minutes a day, will yield great results. Never give up, amen to that!
Stefanie says
That´s such an inspiring post! For me self sabotage is the biggest mistake I´m always doing!
Nadalie Bardo says
Thanks Stefanie,
That’s one of those sneaky mistakes too. You may not even know you’re doing it, until you’re like, “OMG, I am literally blowing this up for no reason.”
Becca Starr says
We’re usually the ones standing in our own way. It’s great to have a super star team of friends, associates, and mentors around us to point it out and help redirect when we’re self-sabotaging. Thanks for sharing!
Kim | Thinking of Someday says
I love the tips in this post! The one about remembering how someone fits into your life especially sticks out to me. I think this should be regardless of who it is, especially if they’re hindering you from your goals in any way.
Nadalie Bardo says
Thanks so much Kim!
Yes, totally. There are times we need to remember to keep the people in our lives in their lanes. Those who aren’t supportive need to go on their way, while we need to circle those who are around us.
Becca Starr says
Ohhh, staying in their lanes. Important in any relationship, business, marriage, friendship, family. Love it.
Becca Starr says
Yes, absolutely! We may have friends and family or co-workers who may not be supporting us, that’s going to happen. But knowing how they fit into our life and then being intentional about who we turn to when we need a lift, that’s all a choice. Thanks so much, Kim.
Amber Myers says
This is great advice. I do stay away from naysayers. I don’t have the patience for those kinds of people. And I always try to have various plans just in case the first one doesn’t work. You just never know.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Amber,
We gotta avoid them like the plague. In many ways our dreams are like plants and they can wilt or bloom by the words of others.
Becca Starr says
Not having patience for them helps to make it easier! 🙂 I love what Nadalie shared here about our dreams being plants, they need love and sunshine!
Courtney CJ says
I am very careful about who I spend my time with because energy transfer is real. I have too many things that I am attempting to accomplish to be worried about naysayers. People that you thought would cheer for you sometimes don’t and unfortunately, I have had to learn that lesson.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Courtney,
It’s SOO real. I sometimes feel like I’m in such a funk after being around certain people. Especially people who aren’t mellow and focused. It’s almost like I’m drunk and need to detox from their energy.
Becca Starr says
I can’t remember what book I read, it was years ago (The Celestine Prophecy?) It discussed energy vampires, and other personalities that have an effect on us. We’re personally responsible for choosing our relationships and who we surround ourselves with. Certain people can be tricky, like work or family, some people we can’t avoid, but we can protect ourselves and our energy.
Ania Travels says
I found lack of resources was usually the reason why I didn’t succeed. I never reached out to outside help which is very important to have a support system and good resources. Thanks for the tips.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Ania,
We need our support systems for sure. I know I am guilty of thinking that I am pushing forward towards my dreams on my own or that it’s all on me, but it really isn’t. Or at the very least, it shouldn’t be. I find that the people in our lives are happy to be let into the inner circle and be a part of our journey.
Becca Starr says
I just posted in my FB group about lack of resources and how it can hold us back. If we’re lacking Time or Money it should be our Real Goal, our rock star goal 😉 Good support system and good resources are BIG!
Ken Hanaya says
Good article. Naysayers will always be an issue. It’s sad with all the negativity around us that discourages us from doing what we need to do. So glad you wrote about this…thanks.
Nadalie Bardo says
Thanks Ken!
Becca did such a wonderful job on this piece! Negativity is a real force in this world, but positivity is stronger and I think one kind word can erase many more discouraging words. We’ve gotta fill our ears with positivity.
Becca Starr says
Amen. Light will always be more powerful than dark.
Becca Starr says
Thank You, Ken. Awareness is the first step 😉 It really is, then we can change our own actions and patterns. Our attention on the positive, supportive people will create more of those people, it really will.
Mae says
I completely agree to surrounding yourself with people who believe in your ability to succeed. It’s often so easy to sabotage ourselves into thinking we can’t, but having people to tell us we can succeed means a lot.
Mae
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Mae,
That’s exactly it. It is wayyy too easy to not believe in yourself and continue believing that you can’t. It really does mean the world.
You got this! 😉
Becca Starr says
It’s so easy to tell ourselves that! We’re not meant to live in a bubble either, we have to surround ourselves with others, especially if we want to create well-being and success. We just have to choose WHO we’re surrounding ourselves with, we need to be lifted up when we can’t do it for ourselves. Thank You, Mae.
Mia says
These are great tips! I especially appreciated the one about avoiding naysayers. There will always be someone who says you can’t do it, or that you’ll fail because they failed, etc. You just take it with a grain of salt and keep it movin’. 🙂
Becca Starr says
Take it with a grain of salt and keep it movin’ …. love it! xo
Amanda at The Light Owl says
Love how well rounded this post is! The self defeating thoughts and lack of resources are really what get me currently, but I’m working on it 🙂 and I know the universe has my back. I can see things lining up in my favor this week to Smush all the negativity.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Amanda,
Isn’t it fantastic?! Becca really got to the root of it in her post.
Honestly me too! The lack of resources. I need to get into the abundance mindset and banish these limiting scarcity beliefs.
Cheers to positivity,
Nadalie
Becca Starr says
I love it, SMUSH all the negativity! Thanks so much, Amanda. It’s amazing how self-defeating we can be without realizing it. Awareness is key!
Taylor Mobley says
I need to stop getting in my own way. Having a good support system is key.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Taylor,
I literally just wrote about to my VIPS. The subject line was like, “move out of your own way.” *beep beep* coming through!
Becca Starr says
In coaching, I’m all about helping women recognize and create their support system. To be more successful we need a TEAM, we can’t do this alone! We could (and should) have mentors, positive friends, maybe a therapist, family, whatever we need to be the rock stars we were meant to be!
Ana Ojha says
This is such great tips! I agree that we should be surrounded by positive people who boost our energy and not those kinds of people that have the negative aura and discourage us from achieving our goal!
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Ana,
They really are, Becca is so awesome for writing this gem of a post.
We so need that energy boost on a regular basis and to feed off others positive auras.
Thanks for stoping by,
Nadalie
Becca Starr says
Hi Ana,
Thank You. Isn’t it so important to consciously choose who we’re reaching out to for support? It’s good to think about the power (or disempowerment) relationships might have on our well-being. We need people who boost our energy and encourage our success!
Stefanie says
Positive people are everything!! I enjoyed reading your post a lot!!
Becca Starr says
Thank You, Stephanie!
Dominique says
I agree with so many things you have said here, and I think it’s important to always be trying different things and new angles to reach your goals. There’s no harming in trying something and finding that approach doesn’t work (or does!) and then moving on or expanding. I also agree with ignoring naysayers. One thing I’ve learn since launching my website is that it is more important to observe what people do, than to ask them what they want (often people don’t know what they want until they’re presented with options!)
Becca Starr says
Yes, trying different things and options to reach our goals is great! It’s all a process. Getting stuck or negative doesn’t get us anywhere. Thanks for your reply!
kelly reci says
thanks for sharing it! it really inspired me! thanks
Becca Starr says
Excellent, glad to hear it!
Carol Cassara says
Very well said as always! It’s important to avoid toxic people that will bring you down and not support you or motivate you to achieve your goals. I needed to read something like this today, thanks for the tips and the reminders. <3
Becca Starr says
Thanks Carol! It’s crazy how toxic people can be everywhere, unfortunately, so we have to be intentional about who we surround ourselves with.
It’s always good to be reminded. Do we have those people who support our dreams or help us towards achieving our goals? If not, let’s get on it! 😉
Amrita says
I have a Higher Power and invisible team to guide me, inspire me and support me at all times.
I love this line .Sometimes this is the only thing that gers me going .I try to avoid dream killers and naysayers .It’s okay to have doubts .But not okay with killing others dreams .Superb post .
Becca Starr says
Amen!
I read that and thought Yes, Yes, Yes! Then realized I actually wrote it 😂 I guess I really needed to hear that power statement today! Thank You, Amrita.
Deepa says
Great post with great tips. Something which I needed today. Positive thoughts and happy life. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
Becca Starr says
Excellent, thanks Deepa!
Michaela says
Struggling with self-doubt is my biggest issue. Even when people are helping build me up I keep hearing this voice in the back of my head that I don’t know enough or I’m not good enough. It’s quite a pain!
Becca Starr says
Michaela, it’s so normal. Most successful women feel inadequate. Courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s just the decision to DO IT ANYWAY. If you reach out to others who are where you want to be you’ll begin to see that common thread. Mel Robbins ‘The 5-Second Rule’ is a great read to walk through it more effectively. Thanks for posting, we can all relate!
Tamara Bowman says
I am loving those tweet! My biggest obstacle in my career is self-doubt, and lack of confidence. I tend to always think I’m a fraud and that everyone else out there is a “real” photographer, or a “real” blogger. It’s no good feeling inadequate all the time. I’d love to have the mental space to match my successes.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Tamara,
GURLLL, I’ve been there! I always felt like I wasn’t as good as so and so or it just seemed like they always had more business than I did. I’ve so been there, as a photographer and as a blogger. I find that I’ve been able to GROW my confidence by putting myself out there and just doing me regardless of what anyone else in the “industry” is doing.
Also, what helps is just ignoring anyone who does what I am doing too closely. Less opportunities for comparison and feeling inadequate when I can’t see what they’re up to.
You are a REAL photographer and a REAL blogger!
Becca Starr says
We’ve ALL been there. I study successful women and it’s THE most common thread. Power Statement (aka ‘affirmations) and being brave are very helpful for me. I’d love to hear about a badass action you took recently!
Heidi says
“And there’s always an opportunity to get creative when you’re faced with obstacles. Always.” This is so true! I’ve managed to start my blog with barely spending any money, but the money I have spent is SO worth it. I feel like turning an obstacle INTO creativity is the best way to go.
Nadalie Bardo says
Isn’t it! It’s when we’re between the rock and the hard place we see opportunity because we have to seek it out! Creativity is so what drives us forward, as individuals and as a community. You either rise to the occasion or …..
That’s so great. I, on the other hand, have probably spent a lot more than I needed to but I am confident that I shall get a huge return on my investment. Trying to live in that abundance mindset.
Cheers to creativity!
Becca Starr says
Excellent! Not many people can say that. That experience will produce more of a creative, badass mentality – which is necessary to success!
Censie Sawyer says
Naysayers is the obstacle that seems to get in my way more often than not. I have a bad time when I think someone thinks I cant do something. Usually I believe them. This is something I am working on in my life!
Becca Starr says
I’m so glad you got a tap on the shoulder about that one 😉 It’s easy to let it happen, it requires intention & commitment to surround ourselves with more positivity. Hopefully the awareness really begins to make a shift for you, let me know!
Sue Reddel says
Some wonderful tips on how to avoid some common pitfalls. I’ve found number one to be really, really important. Surrounding yourself with positive helpful people is key. Get the negative Nelly’s out of your life as quickly as possible.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Sue,
I know for a FACT I would not have this blog had it not been for the few generous souls who were kind enough to reassure me that I was not insane and that I can indeed do this. And continue to encourage me to this day.
Out with the negative and in with the positive that’s for sure!
Becca Starr says
Beautiful. And what an impressive blog and website you have!
Jennifer Van Huss says
What a great post! It gives you an entirely different view of how success is achieved. My biggest problem is naysayers. The worst one being myself. Always doubting my ability to accomplish my dreams!
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Jennifer,
I couldn’t agree any bit more with you, Becca wrote such an amazing piece. I love how it challenges us to stay vigilant in our pursuits. The most important positive person we can surround ourselves with is us!
Which I know sounds easier than actually being, but it starts with reassuring yourself with positive mantra and affirmations. Literally every time a negative thought creeps up on you, defeat it with a positive on.
You got this! Your dreams are sooo attainable!
Becca Starr says
Thank You, Nadalie. In coaching women, self-doubt can be the most common! It takes vigilance and those positive power thoughts to replace the negative. Louise Hay says that self love is the first step to great health and success, I couldn’t agree more.
Becca Starr says
Thank You, Jennifer. In the past I’ve carried around index cards with my affirmations written on them. Putting them on your bathroom mirror or in places you’ll see them through the day is also super helpful. It takes consistency and practice to achieve anything in life!
Emely Roman says
I find that if I positively think about my goals I feel more inclined to keep working at them. So that in turn obviously makes me closer to achieving them.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Emely,
That’s such a great point! Positively encourages us to keep on going.
Mindset is the most important part. If you believe you can you are half way there. I’ve found that the hardest and longest part of achieving a dream is just getting over self-doubt and all the excuses we give ourselves. Positivity for the quick win!
Becca Starr says
Yes, Emely!
Melanie says
The Naysayers are what I always struggle with. I am sometimes my own worst Naysayer! I definitely need to work on that aspect of avoiding those obstacles.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Melanie,
It’s time to tell them “bye bye”! And that includes you. Sometimes you have to shut yourself down with your positive side any time you feel it creeping up on you. And when you can’t do it yourself, you need friends who can be the fire department and just calm you down when you have a meltdown.
I know I have a few on speed dial or text, that’s for sure.
Had a tiny meltdown yesterday, and I’m so grateful they were there to encourage me on.
Becca Starr says
Yes! In action, Nadalie 🙂
Becca Starr says
We all have this experience Melanie, it’s so important to consciously choose our thoughts and our friends. And as Nadalie said, put the positive reinforcements on speed dial!
Shivangi Chauhan says
Some amazing tips and a lot of positiveness in this post 😀 I so admired the way it has been written and is really one helpful post. You did a great job! 🙂
Becca Starr says
So great to hear, Shivangi.
ellie says
I agree that the naysayers are the ones I struggle with, mainly myself but also the fear of judgment and nastiness after dealing with those 2 things from people many times before. This is such a great post! I’ saving this to read again later when I’m feeling like I’m not as far along as I’d like to be.
Becca Starr says
Ohhh, I love that it’s a keeper for you. It all starts with loving ourselves. Thank You, Ellie.
Terri says
I’m loving these points. However, I have to add that not reaching success also has everything to do with chasing only one definition of it. We have to be willing to define success according to our terms rather someone else’s terms. Until you determine what success means to you, you won’t be successful.
Becca Starr says
I totally agree. We can have goals, or what we thing will make us ‘successful’ but isn’t the point to be deeply satisfied? It’s so important that I include it as my tagline in coaching 😉
Miranda Nahmias says
Yes, yes, yes! Build your tribe of positive mentors, influencers, friends, and colleagues!
Becca Starr says
Yayy!
Cristina says
It’s important to surround yourself with the right people, but my belief is that autosuggestion is the most important. Henry Ford knew it: “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.”
Becca Starr says
Amen, Cristina, that’s the truth. Mindset is the beginning to ALL experiences. Thanks for sharing that.
Jean Neuhart says
I can get sidetracked by the “new shiny.” Keeping on task for a client is easy. Staying on task for behind the scenes business stuff – not so much. Momentum can get lost of projects that take more than a few days. I suppose that could be considered an External Force? Will apply your suggestions and get back on track. Thanks for sharing.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Jean,
I’m so guilty of this too! It’s so hard when that shiny thing could be something “easy” you can do too. Everythings easy on paper.
I feel you, I fall behind on things like book keeping and invoicing all the time. I think it’s because I’m one of those people who needs a fire lite under her ass to get things done. That deadline breathing down my neck and I have that with clients.
Thanks for reading!
Becca Starr says
Yes, I can so relate Jean & Nadalie! Getting distracted & spending time on the ‘easy’ or more enjoyable stuff IS an external force. It reminds me of the quote “Successful people are willing to do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do.” THIS is what that means! Now we know 😉
Becca Starr says
PS…along with all those other (big & scary) things 😉 Your comments also remind me of DIY, delegate or automate – there’s always that balance between pushing ourselves and feeling GOOD doing what we love (one of the keys to abundance).
Bites for Foodies says
That first quote pretty much hits the nail on the head! How many millionaires or successful people have admitted to failing before they finally succeeded?!?!
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey there,
RIGHT! Imagine living in a world where everyone was successful! How many could have or would have, had they avoided these 3 pitfalls?
Becca Starr says
Yes 🙏 we write about things that we need to remember!
Becca Starr says
I LOVE hearing about super stars sharing their failings LOUD & PROUD! It’s our dedication that makes us another success story.
Collette says
Really, really loved this!!!! Especially Obstacle #2…. I struggle with that the most. All of your chosen quotes are great too by the way! I tweeted a few of them so I can remember all of these tips 🙂
Becca Starr says
Love it Collette, thank you!
Tilly the Styled Stock Photo Gal says
I think lately with all of the overwhelm from outside sources (I homeschool my two kids) my blog & insta have fallen by the wayside, which creates a ripple effect because I need eyes to get business. Definitely a lot of outside influences, but I need to prepare by better managing my time and creating content ahead of time so I can post on a schedule! This post couldn’t have come along and kicked me in the guts at a better moment. Thanks!
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Tily,
Oh wow, where do you find time to blog? You must have some jedi level time management skills already. Instagram is a time suck I find, which I why I’m on a hiatus until the fall when things maybe are more manageable, we shall see.
Cheers to finding that balance.
Becca Starr says
Yayy Tilly! How are you doing now with it? A schedule & monthly/weekly themes really help me. That’s amazing that you homeschool, great job mama. I have two little ones & time to focus on work is very limited. I recently prioritized creating more time in my schedule & it’s feeling better already. Sometimes a ‘goal behind the goal’ will help us achieve everything else. These goals are usually time, money, discipline – something that will open us up (big time) for getting back on track with what we’re really shooting for. Good luck!
Chevelle says
Love this so much! I am in the process of surrounding myself with positive people, by first becoming a positive person myself. Thank you for sharing !
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Chevelle,
Yay, I’m so glad you loved it.
Positive people are one of our greatest assets. We will have days when we feel defeated or down and we just cannot pull ourselves up by ourselves.
Becca Starr says
Beautiful, Chevelle!
Becca Starr says
Years ago it was suggested I build a ‘team’ of people who support me. This advice was probably one of the greatest gifts I’ve ever received. Mostly for the reason you said Nadalie, they pull us up when we can’t. And that’s not a weakness as some might thing, it’s a strength to know & use that!
Jen says
I love this and couldn’t agree more! We are our own biggest obstacle sometimes. And believing in ourselves and being positive is a great way to overcome it! Thanks for sharing.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Jen,
*yay* so happy you found it helpful!
We totally are. Literally pointing to myself, I’m feeling like I’m being my biggest challenge at the moment and need to move out of my own way. Here’s to becoming our greatest ASSET!
Becca Starr says
A big YES & AMEN to becoming our biggest asset!!
Krista @ Reroute Lifestyle says
I love that quote about eating problems for breakfast.
Thank you for the positive affirmations! It’s sooo easy to self-sabotage and second guess who you are & what you stand for. But it’s also SO important to really take pride in your purpose & mission and push forward through any negative + naysaying thoughts you may have.
<3
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Krista,
Haha, me too. I saw it and was like, “YUP, that’s really how it is.” They just pop up every day anyways.
Don’t I know it, naysayers show up too. For me, sometimes within myself. Reminding myself why I’m doing this helps me shut them down.