What the heck does it mean to be a Unicorn?
Why do you even want to know how to be one?
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Well, if I told you that three years ago, I thought anyone who was obsessed with Unicorns was a little eccentric, you would probably wonder why I am now a coach for them!??
My journey to discovering my true gifts and talents and embracing it wholeheartedly is what lead me to where I am now.
Being a unicorn is about unleashing your imaginative, creative, fun and silly side that may be tucked away and in hiding. See, we all have unique gifts, which I call your awesome sauce, that we were born with.
Unfortunately, we have been conditioned and raised in a way that really has kept us restricted and forced that side to go into hiding. Well, I say, f*ck that shit!!! It’s time to unleash your inner Unicorn.
Best of all, when you start to embrace your inner unicorn, it can really help you attract the tribe that absolutely loves you!
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Not About Being Your Authentic Self
Now let me get this clear. This is not another way of saying “Be your authentic self”…blah blah blah. We are always being our real self!!
We are always operating from a place of doing our best at that time, whether it is fear, ego, vulnerability, pain or joy! That is totally real and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
It is always changing…and that’s a good thing!
Being a unicorn is all about letting your personality shine. It’s about being clear on the essence of who you are and what you were born to do.
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Now some of you already are badasses and have kick-ass personality and kudos to you for that. But let me ask you this,
- Is it a mirror of what you think people want you to be?
- Are you using all your talents?
- Have you found a way to combine your real gifts with your fun side to show up in the world?
Well, the reality is, most of the world isn’t and I am on a mission to change that.
Two Big Reasons You’re Not Being a Unicorn
The reason why I am so passionate about this is that I spent over 10 years training, coaching and developing people and there are 2 things that kept coming up for me.
- One is that most people hate what they are doing.
- Second, is that most people have no clue what it is that they actually want to do!
So they stay where they are, trying to fix their weaknesses and wonder why they keep living on autopilot. Well, let me tell you, that sucks! When I spent time with my associates, client, and teams, it became obvious to me.
Very few had a handle on what their true gifts were. So many had amazing talents that were not being utilized. Worst of all, they were in places where they were forced to fix their weaknesses. How sad!
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All these unicorns are hidden away doing shit that they hate. Unicorns know that the more time they spend working on their weakness, the more it takes away from them honing in on what they are meant to do. Your soul call. What you were designed to do and do easily!
Unicorns fart rainbows for Pete’s sake!! They are colorful, majestic, magical and most of all, they stand tall in their greatness. The key thing is, they own their magic, their awesome sauce, and their greatness. They know how to shine. They know that in a world of unicorns, that there are other unicorns that shine in ways they don’t and together they stand tall and lift each other up! That is what it means to be a unicorn.
5 Ways to Discover Your Inner Unicorn
So how does one start to discover your inner unicorn? Here are a few ways.
#1. Unicorns Love to Play and Have Fun
They are not afraid to be silly, have fun and laugh at themselves. A lot of us are so damn serious all the time. Chill the eff out!!! When you allow playfulness into your life, you can start to relax.
Being in a place of play can really bring forth some clarity. You can start to see things differently. New ideas start to arise and most of all, it takes away some of the fears we have that limit us from taking action! Here are some ways to start adding play into your life.
- Be a kid again. Pick your favorite board game from when you were young and have a game night!
- Watch your fav cartoon or rediscover a past time that you may have totally forgot about. You may start laughing in ways that you forget even existed
- If that is too far out of your realm right now, try doodling, drawing, painting and watching funny movies. As long as you can laugh, you are having fun
#2. Create Goals that Set Your Soul on Fire
I lived an unconscious lie for years of my life working on goals that I thought I wanted. They were stable, I liked the company, moved me up the ranks, allowed me to buy my first home and my badass jeep… JEEP LIFE!
Unfortunately, while on my journey to discovering my inner unicorn, I realized that I was playing it safe. It led me to one of the worst places anyone can be, which is complacency. BLLEHHHH!! Ask yourself this:
- On a scale from 1-10, how excited do you get when you think about your goals?
- How long have you had it?
Setting the right goals starts with alignment. They connect to who you really are. Creating aligned goals can be tricky but once you get real honest with yourself, the process is easy!
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#3. Show Up in the World as You Really Want to be Seen
There are many of us that are showing up in a way that we think others want us to behave and don’t even know we are doing it! Yes, we are sometimes blind to it. I know because I have been there. Here are a few steps for you to connect with.
- Write out how you want to be seen or known
- Make a list of what your values are
- Set one tiny action that you can take to work towards what you wrote in step 1
- Don’t beat yourself up over the fact that you may have been pretending is some way. One of the traits of being a badass unicorn is to not make yourself wrong!
It can take some soul searching to really dig deep to get honest with yourself but trust me, it is worth it!
#4. Connect with Your Unique Awesome Sauce
This is your true gifts and talents. This stems from your passions most of the time. Here are a few things to consider when discovering your gifts.
- What do you always gravitate to?
- What could you talk about for hours and can’t seem to shut up about?
- Ask others what they think you are good at? You may be surprised at what you find out!
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I didn’t realize that one of my gifts was coaching and helping others recognize their gifts until my associates kept telling me that I should start charging for my time when I was just helping them out! You all have hidden gifts, trust me. Once you know them, it can help you own your greatness.
#5. Let Your Weirdness Out
We are all weirdos…some secretly and some openly. I will let you in on a little secret…your weirdness is only weird because everyone is hiding it!!
The sad part about this is that most of us were born sharing our gifts and being weird and it stopped when we were young. BOO!!! Why? Well because good old society and our unknowing parents had us conform to being quiet, not be curious and ask questions and most, not all, were made to be wrong when we were just expressing ourselves.
Now before we get into a frenzy about society and blaming our upbringing, let’s focus on the now.
- Embrace your uniqueness. Think about the things that make you different whether it be in relationships, business, parenting or just you! Express it in a way that feels good to you such as writing, drawing or speaking
- Take a picture of you acting silly….yup, start with some silly filters of you need. Then you can move to a video and then when you are ready… share it on social media! When you do…please tag me as I love to see your unicorns unleashed!
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Let’s be honest. Stop acting as you don’t dance around the house to songs that you don’t want to admit that you like, that you need to be serious all the time because you are a parent, that liking unicorns at the age of 35 makes you less competent.
As long as it is not destructive to you, other people and your health, LET YOUR WEIRDNESS OUT.
Being a Unicorn Changes Your Life and Business
For those who are still wondering why this matters, well consider this. If you are in any relationship, romantic, friendship, business etc, isn’t it exhausting to have to hold back? Isn’t it tiring to have people in your life that don’t really vibe with you?
When you embrace and unleash your gifts and talents, you will also attract the people who just get you!
For those who are entrepreneurs or building a business, this is crucial as this is a mirror of our culture. It is what helps you stay grounded in your ideas. You will never have to second guess your ideas, as you will know who you are at what you stand for. It becomes the vibration of your business and your ideal clients will flock to it.
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Ready to be the amazing unicorn that you are? Let’s recap everything we’ve covered:
- It’s not about being your authentic self
- There are two reasons you’re not being a unicorn
- Five ways to discover your inner unicorn
- Unicorns love to play
- Set goals that set your soul on fire
- Show up in the world as you really want to be seen
- Connect with your unique awesome sauce
- Let your weirdness out
- Being a unicorn changes your life and business
My mission is to have a world of people who know what their talents are, use them to work on their purpose and get compensated to do what sets their soul on fire.
I truly believe that when we can all own our greatness, we can live the lives that we intended to have. Be a badass.
Unicorn and get out there and fart rainbows everywhere you go!
Are you ready to become a unicorn?
More About Guest Contributor
Crystal is a Mindset and Confidence Coach for Unicorns at Revamp Your World. She is on a mission to help fellow unicorns who are struggling to turn their creative ideas into inspired action. Her approach is that things can be simple and fun. Having the ability to help identify strengths and see gaps in plans has allowed her to be able to help others hone into their unique selling position. She is a firm believer that once you know your own gifts, your dreams can begin to feel possible.
Jordan Ring says
This- “See, we all have unique gifts, which I call your awesome sauce, that we were born with.’ Was AWESOME. haha. Loved it.
I am totally tracking here: Getting yourself fired up with goals that light a burning passion inside of you is just about the only thing we can do to improve weaknesses, and to ultimately do the right thing for ourselves and thus the world in general. We cannot give back if we resign ourselves to settling or to always chasing our weaknesses around in circles.
And being weird in front of people is a new one for me, but my wife and I have named and dedicated our Podcast over being weird and saying goodbye to normal.
Let’s be unicorns and not some people with flashy cars or rolodexes.
-Jordan
PS: Jeep wave! 🙂
Nathalie @ Press Print Party! says
We all have our unique talents, the question is how to best utilize them. Good post….
Sam says
Haha, this is really cute! Love the advice!
Angie says
This is sooo fun! Unicorns are all the rage right now, but I like to see it taking on more of a look inside yourself and change your life view, than just another pretty treat. Don’t get me wrong, I like pretty treats, but I’m all about the self work and shining as much as possible. Thanks for a little inspiration today.
Christina Beauchamp says
Ahhh I just LOVE this post!! I’m a new fan of yours! It’s freeing to know that being your weird self is really the best thing you can be!
hugs,
Christina
Toni | DrToniDDS says
I love this! I have locked up my unicorn, but it is time to unleash the unicorn. Lol. I try not to be the weirdo, but you make me feel like it is ok to be weird. Definitely going to go make some silly videos now.
Sade @ the Holistic Esquire says
How awesome is this post!!!! I’ve recently started to discover my inner unicorn or my “bold” as like to call it. It’s so freeing!
P.S. Love the bit about being a kid again. I watch cartoons every Saturday, I am the first in line to see animated movies, and I’m the hypest person at Disney parks or Universal Studios. No shame in my game!!
Julie says
Jeep wave back! I hate when people don’t Jeep wave. I’m a big fan of laughter. I used to take myself way too seriously. Now as a comedian I’m just the opposite. Everyone needs to laugh. I’m also a fan of rocking your weirdness. Once you let your guard down and stopping hiding what you think is weird about you, you’ll see that others have the same weirdness.
Censie Sawyer says
I LOVE this post for so many reasons. Unicorn everything in our house right now, my daughters birthday party is on Saturday and we are doing a Rainbow Unicorn party. I love that my daughter loves unicorns because as your post shows there are so many great ways to be magical and powerful – be a unicorn!!!!
Sapphire Kharyzma says
This is the best idea I’ve read all day! I always love reading your posts! And I promise, its not because I love unicorns *wink*
Melanie says
Unicorns are very popular right now. And I think it is because of all the things that you have mentioned and that they represent. My daughter did a lovely unicorn painting and has it hanging in her room to remind her of creativity.
Crystal Chen says
That is awesome! I’m glad you enjoyed it and I love painting too!
ShootingStarsMag says
Fun post! I definitely don’t mind letting my weird out. 🙂 Great tips.
Crystal Chen says
Yay to getting your weird out! Thank you! Keep me posted on how the tips pan out!
Taylor Mobley says
Being yourself is so very important! We should always strive to work on ourselves. 🙂
rebekah says
Unicorns are all the rage! LOVE this post!
Crystal Chen says
Thank you!!! Happy you enjoyed it! Woot woot!
Gemille Sleweon says
We get caught up in the seriousness of our daily lives and forget to live a little. After all, nobody goes back and says “I wish I was more uptight” lol. I’m all for letting out our fun imaginative sides.
Crystal Chen says
I love that!! That’s so true….no one would ever say that. Thanks for commenting and happy it resonated
adriana says
I totally LOVE this! At first I didn’t know what to expect – after reading it, couldn’t agree more! Setting and achieving goals that fire you up – there’s nothing like it. Really loved this – such a great read!
Crystal Chen Mindset Coach to Unicorns says
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!! Much appreciated!!
Aileen Adalid says
Haha you got me at unicorn 😉 I love how you took a spin on things and emphasized on letting our individuality shine through. This post makes me remember the quote: “Normal is boring.” Definitely nothing wrong with being weird haha
Nadalie Bardo says
Thanks, Aileen! I so agree Crystal had me at unicorn too!
Cheers to being weird,
Nadalie
Lena Burkut says
I have to absolutely unicorn lovers in my family, but I didn’t realize that I am the one who has to strive to be a unicorn
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Lena,
Yay for loving unicorns! And that you’re one who strives to embrace your inner unicorn. We all should. =)
Bronke says
I think this is a really great methaphore for discovering your talents and passions; And it’s true, you feel better and happier is you are and do what you love
Nadalie Bardo says
That’s such a great point Bronke! Being a unicorn really does mean living life driven by your talents and passions.
Fabiana @ No Wagon Diet says
I love everything about this post. Thanks for sharing lots of practical tips instead of just endorsing authenticity. I really appreciate it.
I work in an industry filled with difficult feelings. It’s hard sometimes to lighten up and be the voice I truly want to be. I want to bring hope, joy, and fun back to the lives of people that have been struggling with body images issues and feeling crazy around food. Your post has encouraged me to bring this side of me to the light of my business 🙂
Crystal Chen Mindset Coach to Unicorns says
Wow!! Thank you for sharing with me the impact…it really brings me joy. What a great reason to spread joy and to those who can benefit from it. Being in the fitness industry for 15 years I know how much body image impacts others. If there is any way I can be of service, I would love to connect with you more. You are most welcome and thank you again
daneen rogers says
This is a great post! We definitely need to let our hair down more often and just let our inner child take over.
Crystal Chen Mindset Coach to Unicorns says
Thank you!!! Inner child fun is the best. Yay to letting your hair down
Shelly says
Great message. I like the fun spin you put on it. Thank you for sharing.
Crystal Chen Mindset Coach to Unicorns says
You are most welcome!!
Czjai says
Last year, I took the plunge and dyed my hair purple. That was me being a unicorn, haha. 🙂
Crystal Chen Mindset Coach to Unicorns says
I love funky hair and my hair was recently purple too!!! Love It!
Danielle says
I really love this. I need to work on showing up in the world the way I want to be perceived. I am so used to showing up as the person others assume I am, and then I feel undervalued and misunderstood. Thanks for these great tips!
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Danielle,
I think that’s something I need to work on too. Sometimes people in our lives need to meet us again, they get so used to thinking of who we were or who they think we are.
Ingrid says
If living with authenticity is what you are talking about then I have always strived to do so. Unwittingly I used to mirror to people what they expected me to be. All that changed and as you said I embraced my serious side and my quirky imaginative side. It sometimes confuses people who cannot reconcile to the fact that both aspects reside in the same person
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Ingrid,
Authenticity is EVERYTHING and letting go of who others think you are can be difficult. That’s a good point – I’d push it farther to say that sometimes we can’t reconcile it with ourselves either.
LavandaMichelle says
This took the longest to read. My 12 year old loves unicorns. We read it slowly and click to all pictures. Now she is asking her father to buy this list she created.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hehehe, I’m glad it was a long and well-enjoyed read for you both!
Kat says
I really like my job…most of the time. I spend all Sunday dreading going back to work on the Monday. I know what I would love to do, and I am slowly taking steps towards that goal.
For so many years, I would make sure that no one would see who I really was, as I didn’t want to be perceived as ‘uncool’. It wasn’t until I started working, and also when I moved overseas, that I really became me!
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Kat,
I’m right there with you on this one, but I think most of us are. We love what we do most of the time but even still dread Sunday nights having to wake up to go back.
Wishing you the best of luck in doing more of what you love all the time.
Laura @ The Mindful Mom Blographer says
I love this! I really like how you specifically say to stop trying to fix your weaknesses, and instead focus on what you already do that is great. We all have weaknesses, and we need to be ok with that. Thanks for an inspiring read!
Crystal Chen Mindset Coach to Unicorns says
Thank you for taking the time to read it. I’m so happy you enjoyed it!
Ellie chan says
Your blood g is genuinely one of my favourite blogs out there! Always such fun posts! I’m all for being a Unicorn, anything that involves being silly and creative and having fun!
Ellie chan says
*your blog* sorry autocorrect there!
Kristen from The Road to Domestication says
I’m thankful that I was never conditioned or raised in a way that really has kept me restricted and forced that side or me to go into hiding. I sure hope my daughters are able to say the same when they’re grown!
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Kristen,
That’s amazing, you must have had amazing parents. It’s such a liberty or freedom to just be allowed to be yourself. I’m sure your daughters will!
Crystal Chen Mindset Coach to Unicorns says
That’s amazing to hear! I’m sure your doing amazing with your girls. Thanks!
Christie Moeller says
Oh my gosh# 3 yes yes yes! So true! Love this post!
xoxo Christie
Nadalie Bardo says
YES!!! Here’s to showing up as we want to be seen!
Patricia says
Great advice! Sometimes I am too serious at my paying job. I am so blessed though that I am also blogging now. I love to write and your post just confirms for me that is what I should continue striving to do. However, some of the best times that I have had at my current paying job is when I was, in fact, being silly and having fun.
Nadalie Bardo says
Hey Patricia,
Isn’t blogging the PERFECT outlet for being yourself? I love the freedom to just write as I am, to show the world who I really am. I also find it easier to just be you without fear of rejection with my blog. And of course, you can have loads of fun blogging too!
Andrea Florescu says
Love these rules you have just as I live unicorns 🦄. I also use them as a theme in my trainings. Thanks for sharing these
Nadalie Bardo says
That’s fantastic Andrea! I’m sure your students enjoy learning about how to be a unicorn.
Shell says
Such fabulous advice!! I totally love this and absolutely want to embrace my inner unicorn:)
Nadalie Bardo says
Agreed – Crystal has some great advice for us!
Lindsay Bozek says
I’m going to be a unicorn for Halloween 🙂 Now I can really be authentic, thanks! 🙂
Nadalie Bardo says
OMG Love it!
Miranda Nahmias says
I love step #2 so much! Perfect advice here.
Nadalie Bardo says
Thanks, Miranda! So agree with you, Crystal shares some fantastic advice with us.