Do you need to change your mindset?
Ya know, shift the way you think and your general attitude?
Do you find it difficult to stay positive?
Maybe you feel defeated and like you just can’t do it?
Perhaps you even think that things will never change for you.
If so, it’s time for a mindset reset, and for you to emerge as the champion you really are.
Your Mindset Reset Starts with You
I am convinced that the most dangerous thing in the world is someone who knows who they are and is living their life purposefully.
Do you know who you are?
Do you have a purpose and a passion?
As much I am a total fangirl for it, Science Fiction has this one thing wrong, self-aware androids and machines like SkyNet, the Matrix or even Ava from Ex Machina, are not the greatest threat to civilization.
Just like anyone who watches the Walking Dead will tell you, it’s not the zombies that you should be afraid of, it’s people.
The greatest threat to the status quo is YOU my friend: you being completely self-aware of the power and greatest within you, living your life with purpose and with your mind set on victory like a champion.
No One Said it Would Be Easy (& if They Did, They Lied)
This doesn’t mean that life will be easy, that you’ll be given every opportunity or even that you’ve had the greatest of incubations as a child or young adult.
Just like diamonds are forged under deep pressure, so are champions.
From the greatest athletes like Serena Williams (I originally said Arthur Ashby, but you know I have to mention the “greatest athlete ever”) to world-changing politicians like Nelson Mandela who break down barriers, knock down doors that barred their entry, redefine the realm of possibility for everyone, despite their circumstances, what happened to them in life or how they were treated.
Haters Gonna Hate, Period
Pick any true champion in history and I guarantee you that they faced resistance and criticism.
Despite the many names that society and others (aka the haters that will always be hating because they’ve got nothing better to do) tried to label or even insult them with based on their appearance, ability, intellect, birth, “race” (quotations because race is a social construct in case you didn’t know), colour, qualifications, sex, and any other identifying characteristic – champions still hold irrefutable titles like “The First Woman to…,” Grand Slam Champion, President, First African-American to… and so on and so on.
Some champions aren’t even recognized while they’re alive or living champion lives, but history is often kinder than present company. Think about the NASA mathematicians Katherine Johnson, Dorothy Vaughan and Mary Jackson who helped launch astronaut John Glenn in 1962, who were largely unknown heroes until the movie Hidden Figures exposed their greatness to us all.
What will your title be?
Champions Don’t Make Excuses
“Oh poor me I got fired last year, I have student debt ($38k last time I checked) and I live at home with my mom (who is my housemate, not my landlord in case you were wondering). I’m a member of the poorest generation in like a hundred years and I’m unfortunate to be one of those people who just isn’t built for the 9-5.
Oh, woe is me, I’m 30 and single. Sorry 31, haha and yes, still single and no I don’t need your dating advice, thank you (that’s not the purpose of THIS blog). And maybe when I was younger I did not have the blessing of a very identity affirming upbringing (I’m West Indian, that’s just how our parents “parent”).
My this, my that… poor me. Hand me the tissue, please.”
It sounds exaggerate and ridiculous now that I’ve typed it out, but in all honestly, this was me not so long ago.
Crying on the floor of a friends house several times (true story, I can get her to confess to the authenticity of this statement) or distort crying again on the couch in my sister-in-law ‘s office about how I was no longer excited about working this 9-5. The “dream ” 9-5 that I spent like $10K studying for and applied my butt off for, that I was no longer excited about.
Maybe this is you.
Maybe you feel like life isn’t living up to the expectation you had or were promised. Go to school, get a good job, yeah!
Maybe you’re angry that you’re not getting the return on the investments you’ve made to your education or even your employment.
You’ve spent time, money and energy to get where you are now, and when things aren’t exactly what you hoped, you could get angry, you could get complacent, or you could get motivated and get going. Any champion will tell you, that you are not your past and you are not your current circumstances either.
Use the force of any “unfortunate” circumstance to motivate and drive you on towards glory.
Use the force. “I am one with the force and the force is one with me.”
No Apologies and No Feeling Guilty
Sympathy or guilt is not a good reason to do anything.
Beyond the fear of failure and the burden of expectations, I felt so guilty for wanting more than just “enough to get by and live decently.”
I wanted more than my small portion of the good life and I felt bad for this for a long time. I worried that I would be disappointing my boss, my family and maybe even myself.
I asked questions like:
- Shouldn’t I be satisfied and grateful that I had a job?
- Am I greedy for wanting to live my dreams out and be all that am, all that I was made to be?
- Was it wrong for me to want to use my particular set of skills, talents, and gifts to make a living?
- Who am I for thinking that I could be more, or do more than I am told I should be or do?
Champions don’t feel bad for chasing their dreams and they don’t feel guilty for being the fullness of all that they are.
Every Champion Has a Cause
Greatness is never just for you alone.
What are you championing (or campaigning if that sounds better to you)? Or are you too busy complaining?
We all stand for something (even when you’re not aware of it), and if we don’t we fall for anything: A harsh word, a disappointment, a rebuke, a criticism, a hurdle, a stumble, anything is enough to take us down.
Without a strong and fierce dedication to your cause, you will be broken by your circumstances and the opinions of others who unwittingly or purposefully don’t want you to be free.
We spend so much of our lives focusing on the what we should do, who we should be, and not nearly enough time reflecting on why we should do or why we should be.
What do you care about more than anything? Or an even better question is what do you stand against?
Why before what.
Changing the world or even just your world requires your mind to be set like a champion.
Get Your Champion Mindset
So how do you stop complaining and get that champion mindset?
A champion is calm no matter what, choosing to float above circumstance and criticism. A champion doesn’t flinch in the face of challenge.
Here are ten questions to help you build up your champion mindset. Download the free workbook below.
Ten Champion Mindset Building Questions:
What are you worth and what is your value?
What do you deserve?
Who are you? Who do you believe that you are?
Who do others say you are?
Do your actions or words show that you believe them?
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Claim Your Greatness
I decided a long time ago that I would not be defined by my circumstance or by what others called me or believed about me.
It is unfortunate that I learned this at a young age when one who should have loved me more than any other tried to break me, perhaps unwittingly. (I honestly cannot say that they meant well, but I will admit that maybe they didn’t know better.)
But I declare today and with my actions and choices that I make every day, that I am a champion in training. I may never be the first anyone, but I am committed to defying expectations and living as the full expression of who am I, no matter what anyone believes or says about me.
Because if Serena, Arthur, Nelson, Katherine, Dorothy, and Mary did, then so can I and if I can so can you.
So I ask you, are you satisfied with scraps or have you decided that you are going to take a big bite out of this life that you’ve been blessed with?
Are you going to demand a seat at the table or even decide to build your own table?
Will you use your skills, talents, and gifts as your ticket to freedom? Will you live out the fullness of your identity?
The point isn’t to be the greatest, the point is to live out YOUR greatness.
Will you change your mindset and become a champion?