Here’s exactly how I slayed my goal of going from the 9-5 life I hated to being self-employed and loving it (in less than one year).
You’re tired of setting goals that you never seem to be able to achieve.
Yet another year passes, and you still haven’t been able to get going on a dream of yours, like launching that business or side-hustle you’ve always wanted.
You hit the ground running at the beginning of the year, but by the end of January, you’ve stalled, again. Maybe you’ve already invested so much time into planning this life you want, but when it comes down to it you’re not able to make progress.
You’re tired of feeling like a failure and wondering if you’ll ever get there.
You’re constantly wondering, “What am I doing wrong?”
“How can I actually have this amazing life that I want?””
Or, “how do I achieve my dreams?”
Hey, I’ve been there. I’ll be the first to tell you that I struggle with this, and even today still sometimes question how can I slay my goals for 2017.
But, I turn to a simple, yet amazingly powerful lesson about achieving my goals that I learned from the last one year of hustling my way from unemployed and drowning to self-employed and loving it.
More important than believing that you can, that you’re deserving of success, that you are enough, and yes, that is it indeed possible. More crucial that “having a plan.” Without this, I wouldn’t be sitting where I am right now.
Let me introduce you to the 80-20 rule.
Achieving your goal is 20% setting it, but 80% slaying it.
“So, just do it right?”
You’ve probably heard the saying before. You know that in order for you to get from where you are to where you want to be, you need to actually do something about it.
But the problem is, that it’s so easy to get caught in the trap of planning. Constantly planning.
I’ve been here too. I’ve had multiple layovers in planning land.
There I was at the end of 2015 without a plan. I’d be fired without warning and everything I’d accepted as my life was gone. My life plan imploded on itself. From where I would be day to day, to where I’d get my income to survive.
I made the choice to finally pursue my dream of being self-employed and to escape the 9-5 life forever. To be completely free to make a living doing what I love. I was committed to staying motivated no matter what. No fear or excuse was going to stop me. Who-ha! (Insert war cry here).
“Yes, I’m ready to go! You got this girl.”
So as a woman without a plan, of course, I decided that I need one.
But, I got caught in the trap of planning, multiple times. Planning too much, having too many plans, constantly changing the plan, being over-committed to the plan, researching what the plan should be and so on. (Read more about that here: The Problem vs the Promise of Plans).
Once again, I was just dreaming on paper or in Evernote this time. Not actually making any progress, but with the added pressure of needing to make it work, like now (ya know, cuss I have no job).
“So, apparently, I don’t got this.”
All I have is way too many plans and not nearly enough action.
I was obsessively setting goals for myself and laying plans for months and months in advance. I had the whole year mapped out. I obsessed over being perfect, over getting it just right before doing anything.
The ratio at this point was probably 80% planning and 20% of actually doing and that was the problem. So, I flipped it.
The thing that was stopping me was planning and setting my goals.
Do NOT get caught in the planning trap.
You Act for Success
“So, did you just stop planning?”
Not exactly, I just stopped over-planning and shifted my focus to the many other aspects of getting shit done that planning makes you ignore.
When you’re just planning, it’s so easy.
All you’re doing is setting goals, without having to actually get in the dirt and make something happen. You don’t have to worry about procrastination, finding your focus, prioritizing your resources, being accountable, staying motivated or other crucial steps to slaying your goals. This is the 80%.
You realize that the plan is only a smaller portion (the 20%) when you actually get going. You only realize that you need these other steps when you move on from the planning.
The excuse is that you’ll always tell yourself that you’re not ready. Or just not perfect enough.
Maybe you still don’t believe that it’s possible or maybe like me you think that you believe you can do it, but without actually doing anyone you’re just a believer. And belief alone does not get you there.
The Distance Between You and Your Goal
“How can I get to where I want to be?”
Trust me I know the feeling.
The distance between where you are and where you want to be seems immeasurable.
Maybe like me, many aspects of your life were in disarray at the same time (reminder, I was without a job and without a plan and not in great health). Sometimes even the question of knowing where to start or what to focus on can be difficult to answer. Especially when everyone has an opinion on what you need to do.
A simple google search feeds you hundreds of competing advice about what you should be doing. Multiple sources telling you what you’re missing and promising you a solution. And hey, I’m not saying they’re wrong, but they can’t all be right.
But the distance between where you are and where you want to be is shorter and simpler than you can imagine.
The only distance that matters is what you can do now.
This is the 80%. What you need to get it done now.
The only goal that needs to matters is the one you take action on today.
I learned to focus only on what was essential for me to do now (this hour, this day, this week, or even this month at the farthest) to get where I wanted to be.
That’s it. Forget everything else. Just whatever helps you get it done now.
If it doesn’t help you get there, then drop it.
How to Slay Your Goals
2017, I’m here to slay. What about you?
Are you ready to have an epic year?
How do you set goals and achieve them?
Have you set your goals and intention for this year? If so, have you made any progress towards achieving them? Nay, slaying them?
Or maybe you don’t even know where to start or what goals you should even be slaying.
10-Steps to Slaying Your Goals:
Set Your Intention:
Where do you want to be one year from now?
Consider where you are right now and determine where you want to be one year from now. Set your intention, your main goal for the next year, and make this promise to yourself that you will do everything you can to get there. Use all the emotion and feelings that you have about your present circumstances to help you make this commitment.
WHAT TO DO: Say to yourself and write down somewhere you can see it, “Next year this time I will be…” Also, consider taking this further and writing yourself a letter of intention that you can read one year from now.
How can you get there?
What are the stops along the way or the requirements you need to achieve your goal? How can you get there? Maybe there are resources or people in your life that can help you along the way. Try to keep these as natural and intuitive to you, your experience and interests, skill set and knowledge as possible. Don’t try and completely reinvent yourself.
WHAT TO DO: Brainstorm a list of your ideas of how you can achieve your intention. Use a blank sheet of paper or a document or note. Digital lists are great because you can take them with you and just add ideas when they come to you.
Set 3 Smaller Goals:
What are the steps along the way?
What are the milestones or steps that can lead you to your overall intention? Think about the next year and what three goals you need to achieve in order to get from where you are now to where you want to be. Is there any knowledge or skills you must attain, certification you need, resources to save for or purchase, connections to make, sales goals to hit, skills to utilize and so on.
WHAT TO DO: Transform 3 ideas from your brainstorming list into 3 smaller goals. Be as quantitative and as specific as possible, avoiding the use of fluffy adjectives. If it helps think about SMART Goals, which are specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely. Most of all, be hopeful, yet honest and humble in your expectations. You’re going to have to accomplish these, so make them achievable.
What do you need to do when?
What are the requirements of your 3 goals? What timely-tasks or to-dos do you need to do and when? You’ve set your goals, now it’s time to dig deeper into the requirements of meeting that goal. To recap, think of yourself as building a pyramid to where you want to be one year from now: you’ve set your intention (the peak), then your 3 smaller goals (the middle), now you’re scheduling your to-dos for said goals (the bottom).
WHAT TO DO: Break down your 3 goals further into timely to-do tasks. Schedule time into your calendar to work on your to-dos. It’s best to find a way to incorporate your to-dos into your daily or weekly routine. Establish your timeline and set deadlines for yourself. The goal of this exercise is to have time scheduled where you’ll see be reminded to do them. This is your to-do list.
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In one word, 2016 was epic for me. Simply put, I slayed my goals.
It will forever be the single most defining year of my life. 2016 is the year that set me free from the 9-5 life I hated to boldly pursue my dream life of self-employment I so desperately wanted.
2017 will be the year that keeps me free.
What will 2017 be for you? There’s still time to decide.
Where do you want to be one year or less from now?
Are you ready to make 2017 your defining year?
Imagine what it will be like to finally be living the life you’ve dreamed about (ya know, the life you daydreamed about when you’re bored at work and probably over-plan about).
Knowing that you’ve done everything in your power to change your life is an amazing place to be.
How do you slay your goals?